Is flirting with someone not your husband a bad idea? How about fantasizing sexually about people you know? How much flirting is really innocent and how much crosses the line?

My guy has a wide circle of friends and let's face it, some of them are hot. They look nice in board shorts on hot summer days at the pool, and let's just say that they wear their jeans well. I'm a loyal wife- in my long marriage, I've never cheated, but I definitely can't say I haven't looked, thought about, or even fantasized about people that I definitely shouldn't be even thinking about and I KNOW my husband has done the same. But what I'm wondering today, is if it is okay to flirt?

When I go out with the girls, I sometimes talk to guys. And I would like to stress that I TALK only. No making out, no grinding on them, and I definitely don't give anyone my digits, which are top-secret, but I  do, however, sometimes flirt. I don't tell the guys they are good-looking or anything, but I enjoy talking to them and laughing at their jokes. I don't always mention the fact that they will not be getting anything from me due to the fact that my husband would more than likely would not take that too kindly. Is that wrong?

How about flirting and getting touchy with my husband's friends? Is that so bad? My guy's friends are friendly. I am likely to get the occasional spank on the ass, grab around my waist, or get teased about something. It doesn't really bother me and I never object, but I wonder if I'm crossing any lines that I shouldn't be crossing. He's never said anything about it and "jokes around" with their wives, too.

I usually don't mind it when he flirts with my friends, but I do draw the line at comments like, "Wow- your friend __________ is really fricking hot these days."  The worst was a "friend" of ours who decided to straddle the gear shift in her skirt right between us in our pick up to save a little room. She was the same girl who rode on his lap for an entire subway ride while I sat next to him wondering why she couldn't find her own man to "ride". If she's wondering why is she is no longer my Facebook friend, she doesn't have to wonder any longer.

Does that make me a hypocrite or just a normal woman who likes a little extra attention now and again?