Finding a date can seem like a quest for the Holy Grail if you’re older, divorced, retired, or a widower. You may not have any single friends—or only a few of them. You may have even already spent a lifetime with someone you truly, deeply loved, and the thought of dating may even make you feel guilty. You might even feel like you’re too old to date, which couldn’t be further from the truth!

Dating can be simple; just don’t make it so hard on yourself. With today’s modern advances and technology, Viagra isn’t the only thing that can improve your romantic life! You can find your perfect match through a number of ways.

Like any other form of dating, mature dating simply requires an open mind. Remember the basics from your youth? If you’re at the grocery store shopping for some ice cream or at the video store perusing the latest releases, or even if you’re at the book store or going out for a drink after work, there’s always the potential of running into someone interesting! And going after them is super simple: just smile. That’s it! They will probably smile back—and if so, take that as an opportunity to start up a conversation.

Do you go to sporting events in your area? Maybe you’re into poetry readings, or local theater performances. Don’t bother attending things you’re not interested in; you want someone who will have some common interests with you. The bonus of attending local events is that you’ll often find people who live nearby, eliminating the possibility of long-term relationships.

You don’t have to dread “boring dates” just because of your age, either. Instead, you can skip the goofy drunkenness, strange wardrobe and lack of communication and instead find enjoyment in meaningful conversations, good food that you both enjoy and a more intimate relationship that doesn’t depend (solely) on sex.

Still afraid to jump back into the dating game? Try some strategies that might make you feel safer—such as utilizing innovative online dating sites. Paid sites are typically better since they’re monitored, giving you less of a chance of picking up a serial killer. Try posting a profile, using a free trial, and seeing what happens. It’s like a gym membership—if it doesn’t work out, simply cancel.

Being older should never stop anyone from finding true romance. With a little open mindedness and an open heart—and maybe a smile here and there!—you’ll be sure to find the person of your dreams.