My boyfriend’s dreams are finally starting to come true, they’re within his reach and it’s only been nine years in the making. We started dating almost two years ago and we met by accident, while neither of us were even looking for love, there it was, right in front of our faces. I remember the first time I saw him. My brother had just brought his girlfriend over to my place and I saw a guy walking towards us, I assumed he knew my brother and his girlfriend, so I politely introduced myself, “Hi, I’m Melissa, Mark’s sister.” He then introduces himself as, “Hi, I’m Jason, Janelle’s sister.” We all start to laugh and he doesn’t even realize the mistake he just made, he just kept staring at me mesmerized, it was odd, but sweet.

Jason and I have been talking about marriage for the last six months. We’re both very different people, but we have a few major common goals in life and we both believe that is what makes us work so well together. We both are passionate about our careers, me for acting, him as a Navy Seal and we both want to get married and have a big, loving family. We would also love to live on a lake in a big house to where our children can grow up and go to school all within the same house and neighborhood.

At the same time things for us both started to fall into place with our careers and both of our careers ended us in the same general location (within two hours apart, just as we were before). Jason’s started to happen first. He finally got papers to go to pre-BUD/s training in Chicago, just as I was starting to look at apartments in Los Angeles. My concern though, was that Navy Seals have the highest divorce rate and previously in our relationship he had stated that he did not want to get married while in the military, but I did not want to wait till my forties to get married and start our “big family”. So, I suggested that before he start his actual BUD/s training in San Diego that we become engaged, since my previous experiences with that (I was engaged once before to someone else when I was 20, and once we became engaged, my finance changed for the worse, so I ended up ending the engagement and relationship) did not end up well. He was unsure about the idea, but he did not want to lose me, and I was not sure if I wanted to hold onto him knowing that once he completes the Navy Seal training he may be too busy for me, and just let me go after I’ve helped him through this crazy part of his life. I did not want to be a stepping stone for him; I wanted to be his solid rock.

So, he is currently in pre-BUD/s and still no ring. I do know that he’s been shopping for rings, and the last thing I want to do is pressure him on this subject, because HE needs to be ready or it wont work, but I’m also afraid that I will be there to support him along the way, but once he passes he will no longer need me. Lately our relationship has been amazing, he is constantly telling me how much he loves me, so it is not like I am really worried about him leaving me, I just know I would feel more secure with a stronger commitment. Am I being a worry wart?