March 2009

Have you ever wondered why she cheats guys? We all have a good idea or another as to why women may cheat on their partner. But most of the time we are always talking about how men cheat. So this time, let’s take a look at my top ten reasons as to why women cheat. And yes, I have been cheated on before, and these same reasons apply.

1. Emotional Disconnection: believe it or not this is the top reason why most women will cheat—they feel disconnected within their relationship.
2. Underappreciated: women need to be told they are pretty, they are successful and they are contributing, and often. Fail to do so they will seek this remuneration elsewhere.
3. Sexless relationship: if you never have sex with your significant other, and they have needs, can you be so surprised that they seek fulfillment elsewhere?
4. Lack of physical attraction: so she works out all of the time and you have a spare tire around your belly, but were all buff when you hooked up?

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We all have, or know, people that are single. Many times we knew these people before they single, and we now know what it has done to change their outlook, post relationship. That being said, I am certain that many of us have heard of friends that recently broke up with their significant others after a worthwhile and notable stint together and aptly declared, that they were indeed single and really loving it. But, is this notion really all that true? Or, are these people just pretending to be happy to make up for the infinite sadness of aloneness that they are currently enduring?

Claim to Love Being Single: Do They Really Mean it? Three Reasons for and Against

Three Reasons For Being Single All of the Time
One: Sick of the troubles of commitment. Many people love being single because it allows them to do whatever they want, not having to worry about appeasing their significant other.
Two: no rules.

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Do you know married couples that are filing for divorce? The sad fact is that many of us know too many couples that are either going through problems in their relationships right now, or have already filed for divorce. This often makes up ponder our own relationships. And makes us wonder: will our marriage fail? Are there problems with our marriage? In most cases, many marriages do have problems that often go overlooked to the point of destroying the marriage. But, you can avoid that common ultimatum by recognizing the signs of a why most marriages fail.

Three Reasons why Marriages Fail

One: Adultery. This is one of the most common reasons why many marriages end up in divorce. One or both parties are simply unable to commit firmly to the other one. People are easily led astray—and this applies to both sexes, men and women, you both cheat so no finger pointing here—and when this happens, it is, in most cases, nearly impossible to avoid divorce.

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My wife has a gay husband. I know. I am her marital husband. So how can that be? How can a woman be married to a man, in a heterosexual relationship, yet at the same time have a gay husband. How is this even possible? What is this so called gay husband, and how does this notion even apply to women who are happily married to the opposite sex? Worry not dear reader, all shall be explained to you in grave detail in the wordings that are yet to come. So fret not. Kick back…and learn all about the next century version of a girl’s best friend; and a married girl at that.

The Gay Husband Explained
A gay husband is a girl’s best friend. Contrary to popular belief that a diamond is. The moniker of the gay husband dates back far, to years when the gays were first being accepted, typically during the early 80s. Women love gay men. Gay men love straight women. Why? Because they are like a girl, so to speak. They love shopping with them. Dining with them. Going out to coffee.

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Oh man, this is the hardest thing for most men to understand. Why their woman left them and what they can do to win her back again. There are typically many good reasons a woman will leave you. Most of the time it is for cheating on her, and if that is the case, good luck to you sir, because that one generally does not have many ramifications and you are totally on your own. Sob—why did you cheat on her, your problem. However, for all you other lugs out there, who lost the girl but didn’t cheat, there are some good ways that you can go about winning her back. I aim to get you started with five different ways!

Five Ways to Get your Woman Back and Keep Her!
1. Apologize and mean it. Sometime women just want to know that we are sorry. Explain to her that you understand that you hurt her; ask her for one more chance.
2. Find out what she wants to see in you and do it. Many times women will leave men because they feel that they are incapable of change.

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Let’s be honest, before we even get started here men, we suck at being boyfriends for the most part. That is the honest truth that many of us hate to admit. Guys are more selfish and arrogant, less caring and emotional than women, and quite often such mental aperture makes us a bad boyfriend, literally! But, what if I were to tell you that you could just simply follow a few easy tips and your woman would think of you as the next Brad Pit in her life? Well okay, that’s a bit too far, but in reality, you would win her over big time and never have to worry? Sound fair? Okay, here we go!

Five Ways to be the Perfect Boyfriend!
1. Listen to her and care. Women want a guy that they can talk to. On the phone, at home, when they are happy, sad, nervous, excited, depressed, and you get the gist. Be there for her. Your ears are her journals. Listen and care and she will love you for it.
2. Spend valuable time with her.

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Attention men, guys and boys: have you ever had that girl that you were just ‘friends’ with but whom you always had wanted to date, and you never knew how to prove to her that you were the man she had always wanted but that she never knew that she did? Sounds like it’s coming right out of a movie, because movies are based on life and this is real life. There are so many guys that are stuck in the predicament that it is not even funny. But, thankfully, there are some ways around the bend, so to speak. So here are five ways to prove to her that you are the man of her dreams!

Five Ways to Show Her You Are the Perfect Boyfriend She Never Had!
1. Ask her out already! If she is single, then you are wasting your time by not asking her out. Chances are she has already thought of you romantically and then shut those thoughts down out of fear of rejection.
2. If she has a boyfriend. If they are happy, I wouldn’t tread there. But most of the time this is not the case.

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I think that most couples around the world want a harmonious relationship, but finding and getting to that point, for most people at least, is quite another story. The reality is that there is no such thing as fairy tales and their endings. All relationships encounter ups and downs and go through trials and tribulations. But, it’s how you manage and cope and address those issues that can lead to happiness or all out disaster. And call me weird, but I think that it is safe to assume that most couples indeed wish to be in a happy and healthy, mentally and physically fulfilling relationship. Here are some tips on how to get there and stay there!

Three Ways to Keep your Relationship Harmonious
1. Communication is the key to success, period! You need to make sure that you both communicate what you are feeling, when you are feeling it, and why you are feeling that way. I cannot emphasize this point enough.

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I know that I will get some flack from many different males about this blog entry, but I don’t really care if I do. My stance is as such: very rarely, almost never, is sex on the first date a good idea. For so many different reasons that it is not even funny people! Yet, nevertheless, there are many different people who wholeheartedly disagree with me, and that’s okay. But, I feel it is my duty as a dating blogger to at least present three good reasons why you should do your best to refrain from sex on the first date, at all costs!

Three Reasons to Avoid Sex on the First Date At All Costs!
1. STDS (Sexually Transmitted Diseases): yeah I know, wear a condom, which you should do every time that you have sex. However, you know nothing really at all about this person, in most cases. Even a condom only protects you so much.

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Cuddling: it is something that we lovers tend to do. Whether it’s the after sex cuddle time, the before sex cuddle time, the get close and intimate and maybe have sex cuddle time, or just curling up to go to sleep—needless to say, most men will agree, that quite often you don’t know where to place that underarm. You know the one that has go underneath her body, and seemingly, there is not really any good position for that arm to lay in without it losing circulation of blood supply and falling asleep, and ruining your cuddle experience. Well, relax: we have got you covered!

Three Ways to Avoid a Trapped Arm While You Are Cuddling In Bed
1. Change the way that you cuddle. The best way to avoid this is by having her lay with her head on your chest, this way you are flat and your arms, neither of them, will get trapped.

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I was never a fan of blind dates, or blind dating. Why? Because I prefer to meet somebody the old fashioned way where one thing leads to another, and by the nature of you both being single and initiating conversation, and of course having obvious attraction for each other, a date ensues. This is more appealing to me because you know what you are in for—at least for the most part. And there are far less surprises than you will ever have when on a blind date. So with that in mind, here are some reasons why blind dates suck!

Top Three Reasons Why Blind Dates Suck
1. You have never met the person before. This is the most prominent reason in my mind. You are going out with a total stranger. You don’t know what they look like. You don’t know what their personality is like, and you just don’t know them. Far too many ifs for me, if you ask!
2. The night can often go awry.

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Calling all women that are in a relationship where oddly, it is hard to get the man to have sex with them. Not because you are fighting all of the time. And not because there are any inherent problems in your relationship. Mostly, because your man suffers from a low libido and you have trouble getting him sexually aroused to make love to you. Being a man, there are some really good tricks and tips that you can implement that will yield to a horny, hot and ready man in minutes.

Three Ways to Turn Your Man on FAST! (For Girls)
1. Dress sexy and scantily clad and seduce and molest him. I know this sounds cheesy, like it is right out of a movie, but it works! If your man is watching TV and you want sex, come out of bedroom wearing next to nothing. Be a bad little girl and sit on his lap, massage his chest and tell you want him now.
2. Introduce him to your toys and ask him if he wants to play. Most women have sex toys, and if you don’t get some, you are missing out big time.

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I have plenty of plutonic female friends. Most of them are single. A common gripe amongst many is that most men that they date are lacking in the dating knowledge department and end up ruining the evening or making them scared because of numerous red flags that pop up. And guys—when a girl sees red flags, she shuts down. You are nearly always slashed off their list of potential soul mates because most women are looking for some very specific traits in the men that they will choose to be with. So pay attention guys, here are some very helpful dating tips!

1. Talk about your strengths, not your weaknesses. Women don’t want to hear about all of the things that you hate, the ways that you are weak, and what you WON’T or are NOT willing to do. This presents red flag after red flag. Rather, tell them about things that you are passionate about, and why; outline your strengths and your likes, not the latter.
2. Have a good plan of action.

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So you finally decided to make your relationship official. Congratulations. You are hooked up! But, what happens in a few months down the road when you realize that this was just the ending of one path and yet the beginning of another? And, then you also realize at the same time that there are many different points of interest where you and your significant other differ. How do you make sure that your relationship does not succumb to the many woes that ruin many different couples’ relationships? Check out the top five reasons why most couples will have a change of heart and call it a day on their relationship.

Top Five Reasons Why Relationships Fail
1. Communication: this is the most important reason, and often the most commonly overlooked in many relationships. Communicating, and more importantly, communicating often and at length with each other is pivotal to your success as a couple!
2. Compromise: most new couples fail to realize the power of compromise.

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There are so many different ways that you can really work hard to build up your relationship that I could never possibly ever hope to cover them all. However, this does not dissuade me from pursuing some of the more obvious realms of ways that you can improve your relationship, build mutual strength and understanding and really be in hot pursuit of the ideal relationship in no time at all. It all really depends upon how far that you are willing to go, what you envision as the ideal relationship, and where you see that mutuality going in the near future.

Share hobbies together: Have you ever seen those couples biking, hiking, camping and doing whatever together? What they are doing is sharing an intimate experience together where they grow and love what they are doing. One of the best ways to build your relationship is by finding something that you both have in common and using it as a platform or foundation to build off.

Share your sexual fantasies together. Some fantasies are simply off limits.

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Now before I get fully underway with this next blog entry on love, romance, dating and of course, advice, I am certain that nobody in the classroom is familiarized with what I like to call, “Dating Season.” What is you wonder, I will happily tell you young grasshopper. Dating Season is actually a trend that begins in January and lasts until November of the same year. I know, it’s about a year long.

So why does it begin in January? Because everybody is trying to find that certain special somebody all year long, so that come the holidays in November, beginning with Thanksgiving, they have something to truly be thankful for. Additionally, and most importantly, dating season is from these months, because everybody is trying to lock in that new love of their life, in time to celebrate the New Year with them, and bring them home for the holidays to show off to their relatives and friends. 

So when the New Year rolls around, is it any surprise why there are more babies born and weddings had around April and May of every year than any other month?

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Have you ever heard the term Gay Husband, and not as it relates to gay marriages, the laws or real gay husbands. No. Rather, what I am talking about are gay men that befriend married women, and they become best of friends. This is a newer term in popular culture, similar to that of metrosexual, or other pop terms. Yes indeed, the Gay Husband is a new breed of man that is very gay, loves female friends (as they are essentially one of the girls) and hangs out with your wife.

My wife and I have been married for nearly a decade now. Her best friend is as gay as they come. She first turned me on to the term Gay Husband, because that is how she refers to them. See ‘Sex in the City’ to find out where this term originated from. But, basically, they are the best of friends; they hang out all of the time. They give each other relationship advice. They eat out together. See movies, shop, and so on.

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Have you ever been in a relationship that you ended because your partner was cheating on you with somebody else? This is one of the most common reasons why intimate partners separate: adultery, cheating, affair having, and paramount to lies, shady behavior and letdown. Certainly, most people would aptly admit that if they found out that their lover was cheating on them, going behind their back and lying about it, that they most certainly would separate and move on. And who can blame them, cheating destroys lives, families and relationships.

But this leads me to another question: is virtual sex a form of cheating? I was reading a news article the other day about a woman who lives in the UK and is divorcing her husband for cheating on her in a virtual reality website called Second Life. The website allows users to create virtual characters of themselves, and lead a totally second, virtual life as they so desire in an online world that allows them to be anything that they can dream of being.

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There is a misnomer that exists in the marriage community that you can’t have your cake and eat it to when you marriage falls to dust and all you are encountering is fights, muster and letdown. The sad reality is that statistics tell the whole truth when it comes to how many marriages actually and often fail in the United States—which leads the world in the divorce rates overall. According to recent statistics, that have not swayed all that much over the past decade, one in two marriages will fail within the first two years. That being said: fifty percent of the time, or more often, sadly, most married couples will divorce during the first two years of their marriage, and often even earlier than that.

Which leads me to the main, key focus of this entry: the illustrious divorce cake! Yes, they are real and there are actually companies that really make them for you, although many people in this typical situation will opt to make their own divorce cake for one reason or another.

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